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Behavior is a mirror in which everyone displays his own image. - Goethe
I have two pre-teens. Not since they were "two under two" have they been as difficult as they are now. Yes, their current erratic behavior, emotional outbursts and appalling lack of interest in grooming are due to their surging hormones, but there is a consolation. I am frequently complemented by other adults on how kind, confident and polite they are. I always respond with a secretly amazed "thank you", then wonder if they perhaps mistook my kids for someone else's, because who my kids appear to be in public are not the 11 and 12-year-old I observe at home. I constantly remind them: there is only one you, behave like you want to be remembered all the time, not just some of the time.
Does your professional behavior reflect the real you and the image you want to project?
Behavior is another obvious expression of self that impacts your image and demonstrates to others who you are. Behavior includes manners, etiquette, and body language, but these aspects of behavior are teachable and coachable. Many times habits, lack of manners-training, social awkwardness, or lack of confidence prevent individuals from behaving appropriately in many business situations at the detriment of their image. There's a misconception that manners and etiquette are too formal, pretentious and class-driven. Consider them instead as commonly observed methods and practices to help people feel comfortable, included, and considered. There are many books and professional behavior training courses that cover business meal etiquette, telephone etiquette, meeting etiquette, note writing, and cell-phone etiquette, as well as, the physical expression of confidence in terms of body language. It is imperative to have good manners and practice proper etiquette in all aspects of your personal and professional life, but ultimately it is your core values that influence your behavior first.
Human behavior flows from three sources: desire, emotion and knowledge. -- Plato
As you have identified the core values for which you want to be known, consider this: does your behavior reflect your core values? Say you desire be known as an influential team member--generous and knowledgeable. Does your behavior speak to those qualities? There are actions you must take and behavior you must engage in to BE that for which you want to be known. For example, being influential requires that people trust you. How do you garner that trust? Are you honest and authentic in your communications? Are you emotional and show passion about your subject? Do you take a position and stick to it? Do you engage others with your knowledge for their benefit, so that they become educated and inspired to share your message? You will not be influential if you have wishy-washy tendencies. Think about the many politicians whose positions on an issue "evolve"--another way of saying I changed my mind. It is very hard to trust someone who wavers in their affirmations and core beliefs.
I invite you to challenge yourself by considering the many times you have honored your core values with your behavior and the times you did not. Be honest with yourself, then BE that for which you want to be known.
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